Sex during pregnancy is still something of a taboo in even the most liberal of households. With concerns about the effects that sex may have on mother and baby, many people err on the side of caution and put their sex lives on hold for the duration of pregnancy (and a bit beyond as well), but this is completely unnecessary. There are many urban myths and old wives’ tales about coitus in pregnancy, which we’re about to bust – helping you enjoy a full and fun sex life even as your bump continues to grow.
Penetrative Sex will Hurt the Baby
This is perhaps the biggest concern that partners have regarding pregnant sex – an intruding penis will bother and hurt the baby. However, this is not the case, regardless of the size of the penis. Vaginas instinctively react to penises popping along, stretching to create a gap between the penis and the cervix. Additionally, the cervix is closed and boasts a strong plug which provides extra protection from invading penises.
Oral Sex is a No-No
Your partner can still pleasure you with conscientious oral sex during pregnancy. As long as your partner does not blow forcefully, directly into your vagina (potentially causing a dangerous air bubble in the bloodstream), oral sex is definitely still on the menu.
It will be Uncomfortable
Whilst some of your favoured positions may be out of the question due to your changing shape and heightened sensitivity, there are still plenty of positions which will offer all the pleasure without any of the pain. Your partner may need to be a little bit more careful and tender during sex, but there are no reasons your sex life should dry up during pregnancy.
Women’s Health offer these suggested positions for every trimester of your pregnancy, meaning you can keep enjoying sex throughout the term of pregnancy.
Sex Causes Premature Labour
Unless your obstetrician or gynaecologist suggests you avoid sex due to a family/personal history of premature labour, cervical dilation, ruptures of the membranes or placenta previa; sex will not incur premature labour.
Stimulation of the breasts can speed up the production of oxytocin, which can cause contractions close to your due date. However contractions don’t always lead you straight into labour.
You’re Pregnant-Proof Post-Birth
After giving birth, your periods may take a few weeks to start again – but this does not mean that you’re protected from the possibility of falling pregnant again. If you’ve been given the all-clear to start enjoying sex again after giving birth, there’s a chance you may be fertile and producing eggs again.
Unless you want another child almost immediately, it is important to use protection, and condoms are the safest and more effective means.
NHS-backed condom suppliers, Freedoms Shop, explain: “Contraceptive implants, combined pills, vaginal rings and the contraceptive patch can all be used 21 days after giving birth, but may affect the mother’s milk supply. Similarly, new mothers considering contraceptive injections, diaphragms and caps should consult their GP before committing to the contraception.
“On the other hand, condoms can be safely used following the birth – providing comprehensive protection. It is advisable to also use lube, helping ensure the sex is comfortable and enjoyable for new mothers.”
The Baby will Know
If you are concerned that your new born will enter this world with a scolding looking on his/her faces, silently judging the parents for engaging in a little bit of in utero sex – do not worry. There is absolutely no evidence that babies can discern sexual activity enjoyed by their mother, and that it will have any physical or psychological effect. Whilst unborn babies can detect movement, they do not have the ability to interpret what is going on.
So, there is no reason you can’t maintain a full and fun sex life throughout the entire term of pregnancy.